The Travel Diva

London: Interview with a male sex worker

“Maybe because most of the people in the media make use of our services,” he smiled.

“But the television media, producers, politicians – they’re all alike," Sven continued. "Following their purported studies, they produce documentaries that only serve to make the fat cats fatter and assist politicians in keeping the masses in place. What benefit has prostitution or the escort industry derived for from these television shows? We’re just considered another group of misfits to look down upon by those in society that are insecure and emotionally impaired.”

“Tell me about your work and ethics”, I asked.

“I get a little peeved when I hear people referring to escorts as selling themselves. The only way I could sell myself would be into slavery. I’m not a commodity. I provide a service by offering my companionship, and sexual skills. As you use your skill to transcribe this interview into an article I use my body as the vehicle for delivering my service. I charge £350 to act as an event escort and £750 for the full house."

“I’m morally neutral about being a male sex worker. It’s how I’m used that gives it moral value. Paying for sex presents no ethical meaning. It’s not good nor is it bad, it’s merely a deed. My boundary is that I only have sex with a consenting adult. Be they male or female.”

“How do you cope with this lifestyle,” I asked.

“I’ve been doing this for so long now there is nothing to cope with. This is my life. In the beginning it was rough and I spiked -- I needed to do drugs to try and forget but then I got over it. I realized it wasn’t my soul I was selling, just a service. Everything started to go smoothly from that point and I stopped taking drugs.”

We spoke of his clientele and I enquired about his ethics when called upon by heterosexual male he knows to be in a relationship.

“Most of the people that make use of my services are married or attached men. Some are heterosexual and a few are homosexual. Some want excitement, while others need a secret escape from outside their bonds. Some are straight first timers wanting to release their sexual fantasies. But regardless of what you many think, these acts do not threaten their private relationship. I think if supports it.”

“What about morals?” I enquired.

“I cannot dictate the morals of the next man -– that’s a personal thing and the client needs to deal with that. Sometimes it's more about balancing their sexuality, as all they need is to be intimate with another man as a therapy, without necessarily having a gay lifestyle.

“I do not rape or seduce my clients; they find me through my adverts or via the internet. We speak on the phone and set up a mutually convenient date. It’s all very civilized. I don’t chase after them or hang about in bars, hoping to turn a few tricks. I don’t get young straight guys drunk and then lead them into sin; on the contrary I’m a professional businessman.”

“What range of sexual favors do your clients expect?”

All my female clients like my Tantra Yoni massage, others prefer oral sex and some want penetration, most want all three. My male clients get the same as the ladies, only I won’t let them do me."

We spoke of religion and Sven made a few poignant observations about extremists’ opinions of sex workers.

“Imagine how much more screwed up society would be if we all followed the doctrine whereby sex is only permissible within the confines of marriage. What of those people who are incapable of having such a relationship due to their personal circumstances? Would it be more acceptable for that person to exploit or hurt another when craving closeness and take them by force? Where are the morals in that? Surely it makes sense to go to a professional?”

posted by Cindy-Lou Dale @ Friday, August 03, 2007